Our beautiful baby girl was born February 12 at 12:37 a.m.
7 lbs 1/2 oz
A head of full, thick, dark hair
Beautiful in every way imaginable, and everyone is healthy
Will write more later
There are so many options out there in terms of what you can read during your pregnancy. Now at 40+ weeks, looking back on this wonderful and joyous experience, I feel like I’m coming from a pretty good perspective to give you my opinion of what was helpful to me during this journey. So for what it’s worth here are my picks for my top pregnancy reads. If you are going to read nothing else but a handful of things during your pregnancy, then these are the reads I would recommend going with:
- CHILDBIRTH/CONFIDENCE: — Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth — Read this book to gain confidence in your body and in the fact that your body knows how to birth your baby! Even if you don’t agree with all of the “crunchy” ideals, I think this book will be of great benefit to you and your psyche as you prepare for birth.
- BREASTFEEDING — The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding — If you read one book on breastfeeding, I’d recommend this one.
- CONNECTING WITH YOUR BABY — Meditations for Pregnancy — Hubby and I read these weekly meditations throughout my pregnancy, taking turns reading each week. While again a little crunchy, I don’t think it would be off-putting to the “non-crunchy” crowd and I think it’s a great way to connect with your partner (if you have one/if possible) and your unborn child. It was written by the creator of the hypnobirthing method. If this book doesn’t resonate with you, I would suggest finding one that does. We looked forward to this time every week.
- PREGNANCY — Babycenter updates — I do NOT recommend What to Expect When Expecting or any similar book. I was unable to find one that I didn’t feel was alarmist; they all seemed to focus a great deal of energy each chapter on the things that could be going wrong, and that wasn’t the tone I wanted to set for my pregnancy. I had a basic awareness of issues that I needed to be aware of, and beyond that I didn’t think it would be healthy for me to focus on the potential negative. Instead, I found that the weekly pregnancy updates from Babycenter.com were actually very mother- and baby-friendly, and informative.
- BABY CARE — Dr. Sears’ The Baby Book — Again, this book is not fear-based and is breastfeeding and attachment parenting friendly. If you are interested in those concepts, I would absolutely recommend exploring this book.
What books did you enjoy during your pregnancy?
This weekend Hubby and I made two final pre-baby purchases, the Sony DCRSX44 camcorder and a glider.
We decided a small camcorder was in our budget (especially with some of the generous gift cards to Target that we received from my boss and some coworkers at the office shower they held for us on my last day Friday) and that we didn’t want to explain one day to our first child why we bought a “real” camcorder when her younger siblings were born but not for her youngest days/months/years. We actually ended up buying the floor model because they were out of stock, so we saved 20%. The camcorder is REALLY easy to use and so far we really like it! We are not able to film the actual moments of birth because of the hospital wanting to limit liability, but we’ve decided to film some of the labor and definitely after the baby is here. We also want to make a video of the ride home from the hospital (don’t worry, I’ll be filming from the back seat while Hubby drives us home safely.) Hopefully we’ll find it really easy to post these videos and I can share them with you soon!
We also purchased a small glider and ottoman from The Comfortable Chair store in Roswell. Unfortunately I can’t find an image of the exact chair we got, but again we got an off-the-floor model and paid $400 after taxes on something that would have originally been about twice the cost. It doesn’t really fit our modern living room decor, but we decided comfort while nursing was most important. While we’re trying to be rather minimalist with our baby purchases, the main place I would have been breastfeeding our baby was our couch, which is very low. To sit comfortably on it you have to scoot verrrry far back — so I don’t think that would be a good long-term solution for our long-term breastfed baby! The glider is sooo comfortable! So far the cats have enjoyed sitting in it with me — I can’t wait to have our baby in it with me!
As of yesterday I am essentially a SAHM, minus the M part — just waiting on that little girl. We can’t wait to meet her!
At the suggestion of several friends and my fabulous childbirth class instructor, hubby and I decided to revise our birth plan — primarily adding bullet points so it’s easier to read at a glance and also adding a couple things. Here’s what we came up with:
Our Family’s Birth Preferences
My husband and I view our daughter’s birth as a very spiritual, emotional time in which the two of us will become a family of three as we usher a soul into the world. We hope her birth will be a gentle, calm, and powerful experience and thank you for helping us toward that goal.
- My husband, doula, midwife, and any nursing staff necessary are the only people who should be present in the labor and delivery room if at all possible.
- I would like the lights dimmed and my husband and I may bring music to play during labor.
- I want to be mobile during labor when at all possible and hope to deliver our baby in the water.
- I plan on an unmedicated birth and ask that the staff supports me in my decision to instead use deep relaxation and breathing techniques.
- I insist on informed consent prior to any medications, procedures, or interventions.
- If I request pain relief, I would like if at all possible for that to be given in the form of pain coping techniques — massage, acupressure, water, etc.
Delivery and Post-Labor:
- My husband would like to be asked on the day we deliver whether he would like to help catch the baby and to cut the umbilical cord, and may decide to do so.
- I want to hold the baby immediately upon delivery unless medically impossible — and, if I deliver in the tub, would like the baby returned to me immediately after getting into the bed for skin to skin contact and to begin nursing.
- We would like our baby’s eye ointment and vitamin K shot delayed until after we have had this time after birth to bond, and will be declining her Hep B vaccination at this time.
- My husband will later spend time with the baby, skin to skin.
- Our baby should not be given bottles of formula, water, or glucose, or a pacifier.
- She should not be taken from our room unless medically necessary and we consent.
Thank you for doing your best to respect our wishes and help us have the gentle, calm, and powerful birth we hope to experience.
What a day today is! It’s my last day before transitioning from my job in the corporate world to my new job as a mommy. I am so very excited, grateful, thankful, happy, anxious, joyful, tearful, expectant, hopeful, and at peace.
That’s really all I have to say. 🙂
Time for a 39-week baby update!
We had our midwife appointment this morning and all continues to be well in babyland. Baby’s heartbeat sounds great and the midwife says she can tell by feeling on my stomach that she’s moving downward. I had the option of doing a cervical exam or declining it today — and while I said last week I would decline it, because it really means just about nothing in terms of when I will have the baby, curiosity got the best of me — and I learned that I’m about 1 cm dilated, 60% effaced, and the baby is down in my pelvis just at about the -2 station right now.
We also found out that the newest midwife in the practice who we’ve not built the best rapport with yet will likely not be put into the hospital rotation until the 22nd, which makes us happy! I’m sure she will be wonderful and would do a wonderful job delivering our baby, but we’ve just really gotten to know the other midwives through this pregnancy and feel most comfortable with them right now. We will be happy with either of the two other midwives, but REALLY hope it is the younger of the two, who we’ve seen most often. We really love her!
In other news this week, we went to a pediatrician open house on Monday and are going to go with the practice. Hubby, ever the practical one, felt comfortable with their credentials, the cleanliness and general organization of the office, and other logistical details. I love that they have a monthly breastfeeding support group and encourage breastfeeding for at least a year, which is what I want to do. They also will do an alternative vaccine schedule. We have decided we do want to do a complete vaccine schedule but will likely space them out a la Dr. Sears.
Anyway, that’s all my news for today! Other than the fact that I’m now wearing Hubby’s gym socks because mine are too tight on my ankles… 🙂