our latest and greatest birth plan

At the suggestion of several friends and my fabulous childbirth class instructor, hubby and I decided to revise our birth plan — primarily adding bullet points so it’s easier to read at a glance and also adding a couple things.  Here’s what we came up with:

Our Family’s Birth Preferences

My husband and I view our daughter’s birth as a very spiritual, emotional time in which the two of us will become a family of three as we usher a soul into the world.  We hope her birth will be a gentle, calm, and powerful experience and thank you for helping us toward that goal.


  • My husband, doula, midwife, and any nursing staff necessary are the only people who should be present in the labor and delivery room if at all possible.
  • I would like the lights dimmed and my husband and I may bring music to play during labor.  
  • I want to be mobile during labor when at all possible and hope to deliver our baby in the water.  

Pain Management:

  • I plan on an unmedicated birth and ask that the staff supports me in my decision to instead use deep relaxation and breathing techniques.
  • I insist on informed consent prior to any medications, procedures, or interventions.  
  • If I request pain relief, I would like if at all possible for that to be given in the form of pain coping techniques — massage, acupressure, water, etc.

Delivery and Post-Labor:

  • My husband would like to be asked on the day we deliver whether he would like to help catch the baby and to cut the umbilical cord, and may decide to do so.  
  • I want to hold the baby immediately upon delivery unless medically impossible — and, if I deliver in the tub, would like the baby returned to me immediately after getting into the bed for skin to skin contact and to begin nursing.
  • We would like our baby’s eye ointment and vitamin K shot delayed until after we have had this time after birth to bond, and will be declining her Hep B vaccination at this time.
  • My husband will later spend time with the baby, skin to skin.  
  • Our baby should not be given bottles of formula, water, or glucose, or a pacifier.  
  • She should not be taken from our room unless medically necessary and we consent.

Thank you for doing your best to respect our wishes and help us have the gentle, calm, and powerful birth we hope to experience.


16 weeks

As of yesterday and this photo, I am 16 weeks pregnant! Hurray hurrah!

16 weeks

My bump is definitely appearing. Here’s an interesting bare belly side-by-side that may make it even more apparent (or you may be thinking, girl, it’s already obvious you’re getting the belly!) 😉 Take a look at my 12-week and 16-week bare belly photos that I sent to my best friend (no, these bare belly shots did NOT make it on Facebook – ha!):

12 week vs 16 week

I am feeling really good. This week I am starting a water aerobics class through Oh Baby! Fitness, a metro Atlanta company that offers  both pregnancy and mom and baby workout classes. I hope Midz and I both like the class. Also, only TWO MORE DAYS — literally 48 hours from the time I am writing this post — until we will be going into our appointment to hopefully find out Baby Midz’s gender. I hope the ultrasound tech is able to tell and that we are able to announce it early to our family. They will be so surprised because they think we aren’t finding out for another 3.5 weeks.

Since our last appointment with the midwife group on Monday, I’ve also been researching the childbirth classes we are going to take. I have Hubby and I signed up for the water birth class at our hospital, which we need to do even if we decide to not to do a water birth — if I decide to even labor in the tub I need to have taken that class. We’re also going to a “meet the doulas” tea to just see if it’s something that makes sense for us. If we had stayed with my high-intervention OB group (eek!) I would have ABSOLUTELY hired a doula, but I’m not sure if we need one now. I feel very confident in my body’s abilities and in Bill being my support through labor. I am interested in learning more though and, alternatively, in considering not only a labor doula but a postpartum doula.

Finally, for the bulk of our childbirth classes I looked into several childbirth class options. In the end, we’ve decided to go with Confident Childbirth of Atlanta. I liked a couple things about their approach. First, part of their philosophy is that they approach childbirth and labor as a state of wellness, not something to fix or be corrected. They believe a woman’s body knows what to do, as do I. Second, they combine several different methods of coping techniques (Lamaze, Bradley method, and hypnobirthing, among others) so you learn several different methods and can find the combination that works for you. This makes sense to me because I believe people have all sorts of ways of learning, coping, and relaxing. What works for me may not work for you. So I’m glad to try several options as none of these has stood out to me in particular. What childbirth classes did you take or have you taken? Did you find that a particular method helped you during labor?

I will update you all this weekend….hopefully right after we find out whether BABY MIDZ IS A BOY OR GIRL! Any final guesses?!?? They started out leaning heavily toward the girl side…now opinions are very split!

Much love —